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Seeking Knowledge

 by
Shaykh Ali at-Tuwayjari حفظه الله
Delivered on February 24, 2007

BENEFITS OF SEEKING KNOWLEDGE

Indeed you shall die one day, and nothing shall benefit you when you meet Allaah سبحانه وتعالى except beneficial knowledge and righteous actions. Nothing else will benefit you, so do not meet Allaah سبحانه وتعالى whilst you have shortcomings in this regard because this is not good for you and no one has the capability to bear the torment of Allaah. However, you are still in a position where you have time, there is still time where you have an opportunity to learn the Religion of Allaah سبحانه وتعالى and to learn to worship Allaah سبحانه وتعالى. This includes learning about your prayers, your fasting, your zakaat, your hajj and the Islaamic Legislations. I ask Allaah سبحانه وتعالى to grant you success in knowledge. This is where the Shaykh حفظه الله ended.

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Inspirational--Choosing a Wife and Husband :: A Moral Story <For Brother & Sisters in ISLAM)

Seeing that his mother was in a good mood, Ahmad sat near her and said, ‘Mother, I have an idea which should bring you much joy.” His mother answered eagerly, “My son, all that you give me makes me happy. What is on your mind?”

“You know,” he told her, “I have finished my studies and can afford to begin a family. I have decided to marry.”

His mother’s face brightened with a smile. “This is very good news! I have long awaited such a day,” she told him. “How often I have wished you would marry one of your cousins. Praise be to Allah that you have made this decision before it is too late!.” Ahmad exclaimed, “Before it’s too late? What do you mean?” “Your cousin Maryam is now old enough to marry. Every day there is someone visiting her home, seeking her hand.”

Ahmad sat silently for a moment and said, “Then why should we bother her suitors?”

“What do you mean, Ahmad?,” asked his mother, dismayed.

“My cousin Maryam is not fit for me.”

“Why not? No, my son, you’re mistaken. I shall go and see about your engagement tomorrow,” his mother told him.

Ahmad frowned and said, “No, mother. Please do not do such a thing. I will not agree to this.” “When she becomes your fiancé, you will feel love for her. Put aside your fears. Maryam is beautiful, and she has a respectable job.”

Ahmad disagreed, “No. This matter only concerns me.”

Ahmad’s mother thought for a moment and said, “If you dislike Maryam, then there’s my brother’s daughter. She is as beautiful as Maryam, and she has inherited a large sum of money from my brother.

“Mother, please think about this matter from my point of view. I need someone to share my life, not a business partner.”

His mother became angry and sharply asked, “What’s wrong with my niece? Why isn’t she good enough to be your wife?”

Ahmad replied, “She is not a practicing Muslim. I want a Muslim wife.”

Ahmad’s mother laughed sarcastically and said, “You speak as if you were an angel who could only marry another angel. Why don’t you stop saying such nonsense, my son? You are an educated young man, you should give up your impossible ideals.”

“I am neither an angel, nor do I seek a saint for a wife. I am a Muslim believer looking for a girl who also believes in Islam.” replied Ahmad.

Ahmad’s mother told him, “I don’t know any girls who share your ideals.”

He said, “I know someone who measures up to my expectations. “

Startled by this admission, Ahmad’s mother asked, “You know someone? Who is she? Since when do you begin friendship with girls?”

Ahmad answered quickly, “I didn’t mean that I know a girl personally, but I know of her.” ” I see,” she said. “You have already chosen your wife. Who is this lucky girl?” “Mother, please be more understanding. I hope you will take my side and persuade father to agree with my choice.”

This appeal to Ahmad’s mother softened her, and she said, “I swear that I think only of your welfare. I’ll help you. Tell me, what are this girl ’s qualifications?”

Ahmad told her, “Nothing matters except the religious aspect. She is Muslim, and wears complete hijab.” “Oh, then she is uneducated!” “No, she has a high school education and her religious knowledge is extensive.”

Then his mother asked, “What family is she from? Do I know them?”

“She is from a good family known for their piety”, Ahmad told her. “Of what use is a well-known family if a girl has no Islamic morals?” He silently beseeched Allah to give him the patience to overcome his mother’s resistance. “A happy marriage doesn’t depend on fame or wealth. Happiness stems from spiritual nearness and mutual understanding.” Then, in a different tone of voice his mother asked,

“What does her father do for a living?” “He is a grocer,” Ahmad replied.

“A grocer?!”, she exclaimed. “Yes. He is a grocer and a very righteous man. He is the head of a happy and virtuous family.”

Ahmad’s mother interrupted him, “You are the son of a wealthy man; with your college degree you wish to marry a grocer’s daughter? What a shame! Yet you ask me to assist you! If I had chosen the daughter of a jeweler, how would you feel?”

His mother replied, “There is a big difference between a jeweler and a grocer.”

“The only difference is with regard to the substance. The former sells rings and the latter sells sugar. Both work in order to earn money,” Ahmad answered.

His mother lamented, “Imagine your father’s reaction to this news! “

Ahmad said firmly, ” This is my desire, either you help me or I’ll do it myself.”

He spoke so seriously that his mother laughed mockingly, saying, “Does the matter require a great effort? The least move you make, they will give their daughter to you gladly.”

Ahmad shook his head in doubt and said, “Wait and see!”

“What an odd situation this is! Am I to present my son to a grocer’s daughter? What special beauty does this girl possess to make you blind to every other consideration?

“I have not yet seen her,” Ahmad said.

“Then how do you know she’s not ugly?” asked his mother.

“I know she is not. As far as good conduct is concerned, physical beauty is of little importance.”

“Oh Ahmad, my amazement never ceases.”

The next morning, Ahmad told his father of his intentions. His father became angry, but Ahmad remained determined to marry the woman of his choice. Finally his father agreed and Ahmad asked his mother to visit the girl’s home to make the proposal and overcome any obstacles.

The following afternoon Ahmad’s mother, accompanied by his oldest sister, went to the girl’s house. On the way there, Ahmad’s sister asked her mother what the girl’s name was. Her mother replied, ” I forgot to ask him! “When they knocked on the family’s door, they were surprised to see a beautiful young girl open it. The girl was surprised to see the two unfamiliar women, but she showed them into the living room and went to tell her mother that they had visitors. Her mother welcomed the guests and waited for them to explain the reason for their visit. After exchanging greetings, Ahmad’s mother asked who the young girl was who had opened the door. “It was my daughter, Zaynab,” she replied. “Do you have any other daughter?” asked Ahmad’s mother. “No, she’s my only daughter”, replied her mother. Ahmad’s mother and sister were delighted to learn that the beautiful girl was Zaynab. Just then, Zaynab entered with coffee for their visitors. She sat next to Ahmad’s sister and they soon found much to discuss. Then she collected the empty coffee cups and left the room.

Ahmad’s mother began, “We have come with a blessed aim. We would be happy to have your daughter Zaynab as a wife for my son.” She praised her son for his intelligence, his good looks and his wealth, but she neglected to mention his firm Islamic beliefs, which was very important to Zaynab’s mother. Therefore, Ahmad’s mother was stunned when Zaynab’s mother shook her head slowly and said, “I’m very sorry. It is difficult for me to agree to this proposal; in fact, it’s impossible.” With much surprise, Ahmad’s mother asked, “What is impossible?”

“My daughter is still young. I’m sure your son can find a girl who suits him.” Ahmad’s mother protested, “But Zaynab suits him well! Would you be kind enough to justify your refusal?”

“I only have one daughter, and I should be sure of her future married life.”

“But Ahmad is well-off financially,” said his mother. “He is an engineer!”

Zaynab’s mother replied, “Zaynab would not marry someone because he is wealthy or has a college degree.”

Ahmad’s mother was at a loss for words. “Then what will ensure your daughter’s happiness and consent?”

“When a mother looks for a wife for her son, she should mention her son’s conduct.” said the mother of Zaynab. “My daughter is a committed Muslim. She wants a Muslim husband, and remember, my daughter wears hijab, and your son may want a modern wife, who dresses like his mother and sister.”

Ahmad’s mother laughed with relief and told her, “You’re correct. I haven’t mentioned his conduct. I thought that other aspects of his character were of more importance. My son is a faithful Muslim. He is, in fact, looking for a wife who observes hijab. Be sure that my appearance (un-Islamic clothing) is not to Ahmad’s taste.”

Zaynab’s mother also smiled and said, “You should have told me earlier! Please give us your address so we can visit you and learn more about your son.”

“We hope you can come early next week,” said Ahmad’s mother.

Ahmad was waiting anxiously for his mother’s return. As soon as she and her daughter returned home he asked, “Well, mother? How was your visit?”

“It was very strange,” she replied.

“What was strange?”, he asked. “Has anything bad happened?”

“Oh no, Ahmad. But I never expected such a thing,” she answered. “Then they have refused?” Ahmad’s father said, “How could a grocer’s daughter refuse a wealthy young man?”

Ahmad’s mother turned to her husband and said, ” They did, in fact, refuse…”

“What! they refused?” asked the father. “I spoke about Ahmad’s good qualities, but I didn’t mention his Islamic morals. My appearance also caused her to decline my proposal because her daughter is a very faithful Muslim. When I realized their objections, I told them that you are a true Muslim as well. I have come to respect them very much. They don’t care about status or wealth.”

“Have you seen the girl?”, asked Ahmad’s father.

“Yes, she is lovely and polite. Ahmad is a lucky man to have made such a choice.”

The following week, Zaynab’s family paid a visit to Ahmad’s home and plans were made for the upcoming wedding. They were soon married and there was much rejoicing.
 
 

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Gender Equity in Islam
Jamal A. Badawi, Ph.D.
World Assembly of Muslim Youth
WAMY Studies on Islam

I. Introduction & Methodology
When dealing with the Islamic perspective of any topic, there should be a clear
distinction between the normative teachings of Islam and the diverse cultural practices
among Muslims, which may or may not be consistent with them. The focus of this paper
is the normative teachings of Islam as the criteria to judge Muslim practices and
evaluate their compliance with Islam. In identifying what is "Islamic," it is necessary to
make a distinction between the primary sources of Islam (the Qur'an and the Sunnah)
and legal opinions of scholars on specific issues, which may vary and be influenced by
their times, circumstances, and cultures. Such opinions and verdicts do not enjoy the
infallibility accorded to the primary and revelatory sources. Furthermore,
interpretation of the primary sources should consider, among other things:
(a) The context of any text in the Qur'an and the Sunnah. This includes the general
context of Islam, its teachings, its world view, and the context of the surah and section
thereof.
(b) The occasion of the revelation, which may shed light on its meanings,
(c) The role of the Sunnah in explaining and defining the meaning of the Qur'anic text.
This paper is a brief review of the position and role of woman in society from an
Islamic perspective. The topic is divided into spiritual, economic, social, and political
aspects.
II. The Spiritual Aspect
1. According to the Qur'an, men and women have the same spiritual human nature:
O mankind: Reverence your Guardian-Lord Who created you from a single person
created of like nature his mate and from them twain scattered (like seeds) countless men
and women; reverence Allah through Whom you demand your mutual (rights) and
(reverence) the wombs (that bore you): for Allah ever watches over you. (Qur'an 4:1)
It is He who created you from a single person and made his mate of like nature in order
that he might dwell with her (in love). When they are united she bears a light burden
and carries it about (unnoticed). When she grows heavy they both pray to Allah their
Lord (saying): "If You give us a goodly child we vow we shall (ever) be grateful."
(Qur'an 7:189)
(He is) the Creator of the heavens and the earth: He has made for you pairs from among
yourselves and pairs among cattle: by this means does He multiply you: there is nothing
whatever like unto Him and Her is the One that hears and sees (all things.) (Qur'an
42:11))
2. Both genders are recipients of the "divine breath" since they are created with the
same human and spiritual nature (nafsin-waahidah):
But He fashioned him in due proportion and breathed into him something of His spirit.
And He gave you (the faculties of) hearing and sight and feeling (and understanding):
little thanks to you give (Qur'an 15:29)
3. Both genders are dignified and are trustees of Allah on earth.
We have honored the children of Adam, provided them with transport on land and sea;
given them for sustenance things good and pure; and conferred on them special favors
above a great part of Our Creation. (Qur'an 17:70)
Behold your Lord said to the angels: "I will create a vicegerent on earth." They said
"Will you place therein one who will make mischief therein and shed blood? Whilst we
do celebrate Your praises and glorify Your holy (name)?" He said: "I know what you
do not." (Qur'an 2:30)
4. According to the Qur'an, woman is not blamed for the "fall of man." Pregnancy and
childbirth are not seen as punishments for "eating from the forbidden tree." On the
contrary, the Qur'an considers them to be grounds for love and respect due to mothers.
In narrating the story of Adam and Eve, the Qur'an frequently refers to both of
them, never singling out Eve for the blame:
O Adam! Dwell you and your wife in the garden and enjoy (its good things) as you
<both> wish: but approach not this tree or you <both> run into harm and transgression.
Then began Satan to whisper suggestions to them bringing openly before their minds all
their shame that was hidden from them (before): he said "Your Lord only forbade you
this tree lest you <both> should become angels or such beings as live forever." And he
swore to them both that he was their sincere adviser. So by deceit he brought about
their fall: when they tasted of the tree their shame became manifest to them and they
began to sew together the leaves of the garden over their bodies. And their Lord called
unto them: "Did I not forbid you that tree and tell you that Satan was an avowed enemy
unto you?" They said: "Our Lord! We have wronged our own souls: if you forgive us
not and bestow not upon us Your mercy we shall certainly be lost." (Allah) said: "Get
you <both> down with enmity between yourselves. On earth will be your dwelling-place
and your means of livelihood for a time." He said: "Therein shall you <both> live and
therein shall you <both> die; and from it shall you <both> be taken out (at last)." O you
children of Adam! We have bestowed raiment upon you to cover your shame as well as
to be an adornment to you but the raiment of righteousness that is the best. Such are
among the signs of Allah that they may receive admonition! O you children of Adam!
Let not Satan seduce you in the same manner as he got your parents out of the garden
stripping them of their raiment to expose their shame: for he and his tribe watch you
from a position where you cannot see them: We made the evil ones friends (only) to
those without faith. (Qur'an 7:19-27)
On the question of pregnancy and childbirth, the Qur'an states:
And We have enjoined on the person (to be good) to his/her parents: in travail upon
travail did his/her mother bear his/her and in years twain was his/her weaning: (hear
the command) "Show gratitude to Me and to your parents: to Me is (your final) Goal.
(Qur'an 31:14)
We have enjoined on the person kindness to his/her parents: in pain did his/her mother
bear him/her and in paid did she give him/her birth. The carrying of the (child) to
his/her weaning is ( a period of) thirty months. At length when he/she reaches the age
of full strength and attains forty years he/she says "O my Lord! Grant me that I may be
grateful for Your favor which You have bestowed upon me and upon both my parents
and that I may work righteousness such as You may approve; and be gracious to me in
my issue.Truly have I turned to You and truly do I bow (to You) in Islam
<submission>." (Qur'an 46:15)
5. Men and women have the same religious and moral duties and responsibilities. They
both face the consequences of their deeds:
And their Lord has accepted of them and answered them: "Never will I suffer to be los
the work of any of you be it male or female: you are members of one another ..."
(Qur'an 3:195)
If any do deeds of righteousness be they male or female and have faith they will enter
paradise and not the least injustice will be done to them. (Qur'an 4:124)
For Muslim men and women and for believing men and women, for devout men and
women, for true men and women, for men and women who are patient and constant,
for men and women who humble themselves, for men and women who give in charity,
for men and women who fast (and deny themselves), for men and women who guard
their chastity, and for men and women who engage much in Allah's praise, for them has
Allah prepared forgiveness and great reward. (Qur'an 33:35)
One Day shall you see the believing men and the believing women how their Light runs
forward before them and by their right hands: (their greeting will be): "Good news for
you this Day! Gardens beneath which flow rivers! To dwell therein for ever! This is
indeed the highest Achievement!" (Qur'an 57:12)
6. Nowhere dow the Qur'an state that one gender is superior to the other. Some
mistakenly translate "qiwamah" or responsibility for the family as superiority. The
Qur'an makes it clear that the sole basis for superiority of any person over another is
piety and righteousness not gender, color, or nationality:
O mankind! We created you from a single (pair) of a male and a female and made you
into nations and tribes that you may know each other. Verily the most honored of you
in the sight of Allah is (one who is) the most righteous of you. And Allah has full
knowledge and is well acquainted (with all things). (Qur'an 49:13)
7. The absence of women as prophets or "Messengers of Allah" in prophetic history
is due to the demands and physical suffering associated with the role of messengers and
prophets and not because of any spiritual inferiority.
III. The Economic Aspect
1. The Islamic Shariiah recognizes the full property rights of women before and after
marriage. A married woman may keep her maiden name.
2. Greater financial security is assured for women. They are entitled to receive marital
gifts, to keep present and future properties and income for their own security. No
married woman is required to spend a penny from her property and income on the
household. She is entitled to full financial support during marriage and during the
waiting period ('iddah) in case of divorce. She is also entitled to child support.
Generally, a Muslim woman is guaranteed support in all stages of her life, as a
daughter, wife, mother, or sister. These additional advantages of women over men are
somewhat balanced by the provisions of the inheritance which allow the male, in most
cases, to inherit twice as much as the female. This means that the male inherits more
but is responsible financially for other females: daughters, wives, mother, and sister,
while the female (i.e., a wife) inherits less but can keep it all for investment and
financial security without any legal obligation so spend any part of it even for her own
sustenance (food, clothing, housing, medication, etc.).
IV. The Social Aspect
First: As a Daughter
1. The Qur'an effectively ended the cruel pre-Islamic practice of female infanticide
(wa'd):
When the female (infant) buried alive is questioned for what crime she was killed.
(Qur'an 81-8-9)
2. The Qur'an went further to rebuke the unwelcoming attitudes among some parents
upon hearing the news of the birth of a baby girl, instead of a baby boy:
When news is brought to one of them of (the birth of) a female (child) his face darkens
and he is filled with inward grief! With shame does he hide himself from his people
because of the bad news he has had! Shall he retain her on (sufferance and) contempt or
bury her in the dust? Ah! what an evil (choice) they decide on! (Qur'an 16:58-59)
3. Parents are duty bound to support and show kindness and justice to their daughters.
Prophet Muhammad said:
"Whosoever has a daughter and he does not bury her alive, does not insult her, and does
not favor his son over her, Allah will enter him into Paradise." <Ahmad>
"Whosoever supports two daughters til they mature, he and I will come in the day of
judgment as this (and he pointed with his two fingers held together)." <Ahmad>
4. Education is not only a right but also a responsibility of all males and females.
Prophet Muhammad said:
"Seeking knowledge is mandatory for every Muslim ("Muslim" is used here in the
generic meaning which includes both males and females).
Second: As a Wife
1. Marriage in Islam is based on mutual peace, love, and compassion, not just the
satisfaction of man's needs:
And among His Signs is that He created for you mates from among yourselves that you
may well in tranquillity with them and He has put live and mercy between your
(hearts); verily in that are signs for those who reflect. (Qur'an 30:21)
(He is) the Creator of the heavens and the earth: He has made for you pairs from among
yourselves and pairs among cattle: by this means does He multiply you: there is nothing
whatever like unto Him and He is the One that hears and sees (all things). (Qur'an
42:11)
2. The female has the right to accept or reject marriage proposals. Her consent is
prerequisite to the validity of the marital contract according to the Prophet's teaching.
It follows that if by "arranged marriage" is meant marrying the girl without her
consent, then such a marriage is nullifiable is she so wished.
"Ibn Abbas reported that a girl came to the Messenger of God, Muhammad, and she
reported that her father had forced her to marry without her consent. The Messenger of
God gave her the choice ... (between accepting the marriage or invalidating it)."
(Ahmad, Hadeeth no. 2469). In another version, the girl said: "Actually I accept this
marriage but I wanted to let women know that parents have no right to force a husband
on them." <Ibn Majah>
3. The husband is responsible for the maintenance, protection, and overall headship of
the family (qiwamah) within the framework of consultation and kindness. The mutual
dependency and complementary of the roles of males and females does not mean
"subservience" by either party to the other. Prophet Muhammad helped in household
chores in spite of his busy schedule.
The mothers shall give suck to their offspring for two whole years if the father desires
to complete the term. But he shall bear the cost of their food and clothing on equitable
terms. No soul shall have a burden laid on it greater than it can bear. No mother shall
be treated unfairly on account of her child nor father on account of his child. An heir
shall be chargeable in the same way if they both decide on weaning by mutual consent
and after due consultation there is no blame on them. If you decide on a foster-mother
for your offspring there is no blame on you provided you pay (the mother) what you
offered on equitable terms. But fear Allah and know that Allah sees well what you do.
(Qur'an 2:233)
The Qur'an urges husbands to be kind and considerate to heir wives even if they do not
like them.
O you who believe! You are forbidden to inherit women against their will. Nor should
you treat them with harshness that you may take away part of the marital gift you have
given them except where they have been guilty of open lewdness; on the contrary live
with them on a footing of kindness and equity. If you take a dislike to them it may be
that you dislike a thing and Allah brings about though it a great deal of good. (Qur'an
4:19)
Prophet Muhammad taught:
" I command you to be kind to women ..."
"The best of you is the best to his family (wife) ..."
Marital disputes are to be handled privately between the parties whenever possible,
in steps (without excesses or cruelty). If disputes are not resolved then family mediation
can be resorted to.
Divorce is seen as the last resort, which is permissible but not encouraged. Under no
circumstances does the Qur'an encourage, allow or condone family violence or physical
abuse and cruelty. The maximum allowed in extreme cases is a gentle tap that does not
even leave a mark on the body while saving the marriage from collapsing.
5. Forms of marriage dissolution include mutual agreement, the husband's initiative, the
wife's initiative (if part of her marital contract, court decision on the wife's initiative
(for a cause), and the wife's initiative without a "cause" provided that she returns the
marital gift to her husband (khul' <divestiture>).
6. Priority for custody of young children (up to the age of about seven) is given to the
mother. A child later chooses between his mother and father (for custody purposes).
Custody questions are to be settled in a manner that balances the interests of both
parents and well-being of the child
Question of Polygyny
(Polygamy)
1. One of the common myths is to associate polygyny with Islam as if it were
introduced by Islam or is the norm according to its teachings. While no text in the
Qur'an or Sunnah states that either monogamy or polygyny is the norm, demographic
data indicates that monogamy is the norm and polygyny is the exception. In almost all
countries and on the global level the numbers of men and women are almost even, with
women's numbers slightly more than men.
As such, it is a practical impossibility to regard polygyny as the norm since it assumes
a demographic structure of at least two thirds females, and one third males (or 80
percent females and 20 percent males if four wives per male is the norm!). No Islamic
"norm" is based on an impossible assumption.
2. Like many peoples and religions, however, Islam did not out-law polygyny but
regulated it and restricted it. It is neither required nor encouraged, but simply
permitted and not outlawed. Edward Westermarck gives numerous examples of the
sanctioning of polygyny among Jews, Christians, and others.
3. The only passage in the Qur'an (4:3) which explicitly mentioned polygyny and
restricted its practice in terms of the number of wives permitted and the requirement of
justice between them was revealed after the Battle of Uhud in which dozens of Muslims
were martyred leaving behind widows and orphans. This seems to indicate that the
intent of its continued permissibility is to deal with individual and collective
contingencies that may arise from time to time (i.e., imbalances between the number of
males and females created by wars). This provides a moral, practical, and humane
solution to the problems of widows and orphans who are likely to be more vulnerable
in the absence of a husband/father figure to look after their needs: financial,
companions, proper rearing, and other needs.
If you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans marry women of
your choice two or three or four; but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly
(with them) then only one ... (Qur'an 4:3)
4. All parties involved have options: to reject marriage proposals as in the case of a
proposed second wife or to seek divorce or khul' (divestiture) as in the case of a present
wife who cannot accept to live with a polygynous husband.
While the Qur'an allowed polygyny, it did not allow polyandry (multiple husbands of
the same woman). Anthropologically speaking, polyandry is quite rare. Its practice
raises thorny problems related to the lineal identity of children, and incompatibility of
polyandry with feminine nature.
Third: As a Mother
1. Kindness to parents (especially mothers) is next to worship of Allah:
Your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him and that you be kind to parents.
Whether one or both of them attain old age in you life say not to them a word of
contempt nor repel them but address them in terms of honor. (Qur'an 17:23)
And We have enjoined on the human (to be good) to his/her parents: in travail upon
travail did his/her mother bear him/her and in years twain was his/her waning: (hear
the command) "Show gratitude to Me and to your parents: to Me is (your final)
destiny." (Qur'an 31:14)
2. Mothers are accorded a special place of honor in Hadeeth too:
A man came to the Prophet Muhammad asking: O Messenger of Allah, who among the
people is the most worthy of my good companionship? The Prophet said, your mother.
The man said then who is next: the Prophet said, Your mother. The man further asked,
Then who is next? Only then did the Prophet say, Your father. (al Bukhari)
Fourth: As a Sister in Faith (Generally)
1. According to the Prophet Muhammad's saying:
"Women are but sisters (or the other half) of men (shaqa'iq).
2. Prophet Muhammad taught kindness, care, and respect of women in general:
"I commend you to be kind to women"
Fifth: Issue of Modesty and Social Interaction
1. There exists, among Muslims a big gap between the ideal of the real. Cultural
practices on both extremes do exist. Some Muslims emulate non-Islamic cultures and
adopt the modes of dress, unrestricted mixing and behavior resulting in corrupting
influences of Muslims and endangering the family's integrity and strength. On the other
hand, in some Muslim cultural undue and excessive restrictions is not seclusion are
believed to be the ideal. Both extremes seem to contradict the normative teachings of
Islam and are not consistent with the virtuous yet participative nature of the society at
the time of the Prophet Muhammad.
2. Parameters of proper modesty for males and females (dress and behavior) are based
on revelatory sources (the Qur'an and authentic Sunnah) and as such are seen by
believing men and women as divinely-based guidelines with legitimate aims, and divine
wisdom behind them. They are not male-imposed or socially imposed restrictions.
3. The notion of near total seclusion of women is alien to the prophetic period.
Interpretation problems in justifying seclusion reflect, in part, cultural influences and
circumstances in different Muslim countries.
V. The Legal/Political Aspect
1. Both genders are entitled to equality before the law and courts of law. Justice is
genderless.
Most references to testimony (witness) in the Qur'an do not make any reference to
gender. Some references fully equate the testimony of males and female.
And for those who launch a charge against their spouses and have (in support) no
evidence but their own their solitary evidence (can be received) if they bear witness
four times (with an oath) by Allah that they are solemnly telling the truth; And the fifth
(oath) (should be) that they solemnly invoke the curse of Allah on themselves if they tell
a life. But it would avert the punishment from the wife is she bears witness four times
(with an oath) by Allah that (her husband) is telling a lie; And the fifth (oath) should be
that she solemnly invokes the wrath of Allah on herself is (her accuser) is telling the
truth. (Qur'an 24:6-9)
One reference in the Qur'an distinguishes between the witness of a male and a female. It
is useful to quote this reference and explain it in its own context and in the context of
other references to testimony in the Qur'an.
O you who believe! When you deal with each other in transactions involving future
obligations in a fixed period of time reduce them to writing. Let a scribe write down
faithfully as between the parties: let not the scribe refuse to write as Allah has taught
him so let him write. Let him who incurs the liability dictate but let him fear his Lord
Allah and not diminish aught of what he owes. If the party liable is mentally deficient
or weak or unable himself to dictate let his guardian dictate faithfully. And get two
witnesses out of your own men
and if there are not two men then a man and two women such as you choose for
witnesses so that if one of them errs the other can remind her. The witnesses should not
refuse when they are called on (for evidence). Disdain not to reduce to writing (your
contract) for a future period whether it be small or big: it is just in the sight of Allah
more suitable as evidence and more convenient to prevent doubts among yourselves; but
if it be a transaction which you carry out on the spot among yourselves there is no
blame on you if you reduce it not to writing. But take witnesses whenever you make a
commercial contract; and let neither scribe nor witness suffer harm. If you do (such
harm) it would be wickedness in you. So fear Allah; for it is Allah that teaches you.
And Allah is well acquainted with all things. (Qur'an 2:282)
A few comments on this text are essential in order to prevent common
misinterpretations:
a) It cannot be used as an argument that there is a general rule in the Qur'an that the
worth of a female's witness is only half the male's. This presumed "rule" is voided by
the earlier reference (24:6-9) which explicitly equates the testimony of both genders in
the issue at hand.
b) The context of this passage (ayah) relates to the testimony on financial transactions
which are often complex and laden with business jargon. The passage does not make a
blanket generalization which would otherwise contradict 24:6-9 cited earlier.
c) The reason for variations in the number of male and female witnesses required is
given in the same passage. No reference was made to the inferiority or superiority of
one gender's witness or the other's. The only reason given is to corroborate the
female's witness and prevent unintended errors in the perception of the business deal.
The Arabic term used in this passage (tadhilla) means literally "loses the way," "gets
confused or errs." But are females the only gender that may err and need corroboration
of their testimony. Definitely not, and this is why the general rule of testimony in
Islamic law is to have two witnesses even if they are both males. This leaves us with
only one reasonable interpretation that in an ideal Islamic society as envisioned by
Islamic teachings the female members will give priority to their feminine functions as
wives, mothers, and pioneers of charitable works. This emphasis, while making them
more experienced in the inner function of the family
and social life, may not give them enough exposure and experience to business
transactions and terminology, as such a typical Muslim woman in a truly Islamic society
will not normally be present when business dealings are negotiated and if may present
may not fully understand the dealings. In such a case, corroboration by two women
witnesses helps them remind one another and as such give an accurate account of what
happened.
d) It is useful to remember that it is the duty of a fair judge, in a particular case, to
evaluate the credibility, knowledge and experience of any witness and the specific
circumstances of the case at hand.
2. The general rule in social and political life is participation and collaboration of males
and female in public affairs:
The believers, men and women, are protectors one of another; they enjoin what is just
and forbid what is evil: they observe regular prayers, practice regular charity, and obey
Allah and His apostle. On them will Allah pour His mercy: for Allah is Exalted in
power, Wise. (Qur'an 9:71)
3. Now there is sufficient historical evidence of participation by Muslim women in the
choice of rulers, in public issues, in lawmaking, in administrative positions, in
scholarship and teaching, and even in the battlefield. Such involvement in social and
political affairs was done without losing sight of the complementary priorities of both
genders and without violating Islamic guidelines of modesty and virtue.
4. There is no text in the Qur'an or the Sunnah that precludes women from any position
of leadership, except in leading prayer due to the format of prayer as explained earlier
and the headship of state (based on the common and reasonable interpretation of
Hadeeth).
The head of state in Islam is not a ceremonial head. He leads public prayers in some
occasions, constantly travels and negotiates with officials of other states (who are mostly
males). He may be involved in confidential meetings with them. Such heavy
involvement and its necessary format may not be consistent with Islamic guidelines
related to the interaction between the genders and the priority of feminine functions and
their value to society. Furthermore, the conceptual and philosophical background of the
critics of this limited exclusion is that of individualism, ego satisfaction, and the
rejection of the validity of divine guidance in favor of other man-made philosophies,
values, or "ism." The ultimate objective of a Muslim man or woman is to selflessly
serve Allah and the ummah in whatever appropriate capacity.
Conclusion:
1. Textual injunctions on gender equity and the prophetic model are sometimes
disregarded by some if not most Muslims individually and collectively. Revision of
practices (not divine injunctions) is needed. It is not the revelatory Qur'an and the
Sunnah that need any editing or revision. What needs to be reexamined are fallible
human interpretations and practices.
2. Diverse practice in Muslim countries often reflect cultural influences (local or
foreign), more so than the letter or spirit of the Shariiah.
3. Fortunately, there is an emerging trend for the betterment of our understanding of
gender equity, based on the Qur'an and Hadeeth, not on alien and imported un-Islamic
or non-Islamic values and not on the basis of the existing oppressive and unjust status
quo in many parts of the Muslim world.
Endnotes
1. The term equity is used instead of the common expression 'equality" which is
sometimes mistakenly understood to mean absolute equality in each and every detailed
item of comparison rather than the overall equality. Equity is used here to mean justice
and overall equality of the totality of rights and responsibilities of both genders. It does
allow for the possibility of variations in specific items within the overall balance and
equality. It is analogous to two persons possessing diverse currencies amounting, for
each person to the equivalence of US$1000. While each of the two persons may possess
more of one currency than the other, the total value still comes to US$1000 in each
case. It should be added that from an Islamic perspective, the roles of men and women
are complementary and cooperative rather than competitive.
2. The Sunnah refers to the words, actions, and confirmations (con-sent) of the Prophet
Muhammad in matters pertaining to the meaning and practice of Islam. Another
common term which some authorities consider to be equivalent to the Sunnah is the
Hadeeth (plural: Ahadeeth) which literally means "sayings."
3. In both Qur'anic references, 15:29 and 32:9-9, the Arabic terms used are basharan
and al Insaun both mean a human being or a person. English translations do not usually
convey this meaning and commonly use the terms "man" or the pronoun" him" to refer
to "person" without a particular gender identification. Equally erroneous is the common
translation of Bani Adam into "sons of Adam" or "men" instead of a more accurate
term "children of Adam."
4. The emphasis is ours. The explanatory "both"{ was added whenever the Our'anic
Arabic text addresses Adam and Eve, like "lahoma, akala, akhrajahoma." This was done
in order to avoid misinterpreting the English term "you" to mean an address to a
singular person. For the Biblical version of the story and its implications, see The Holy
Bible, RSV, American Bible Society, New York: 1952: Genesis, chapters 2-3, especially
3:6, 12, 17-17; Levi-ticus 12:1-7; 15:19- 30; and Timothy 2:11-14.
5. A common question raised in the West is whether a Muslim woman can be ordained
as a priest as more "liberal" churches do? It should be remembered that there is no
"church" or "priesthood" in Islam. The question of "ordaining" does not arise.
However, most of the common "priestly" functions such as religious education, spiritual
and social counseling are not forbidden to Muslim women in a proper Islamic context.
A woman, however, may not lead prayers since Muslim prayers involve prostrations
and body contact. Since the prayer leader is supposed to stand in front of the
congregation and may move forward in the middle of crowded rows, it would be both
inappropriate and uncomfortable for a female to be in such a position and prostrate,
hands, knees and forehead on the ground with rows of men behind here. A Muslim
woman may be an Islamic scholar, In the early days of Islam, there were several
examples of female scholars who taught both genders.
6. This contrast with the legal provisions in Europe which did not recognize the right
until nearly 13 centuries after Islam. "By a series of acts starting with the Married
Women's Property Act in 1879, amended in 1882 and 1997, married women achieved
the right to won property and to enter into contracts on a par with spinsters, widows,
and divorcees." See Encyclopedia Britannica, 1968, vol. 23, p. 624.
7. This period is usually three months. If the wife is pregnant, it extends until
childbirth.
8. Ahmad Ibn Hanbal (compiler), Musnad Ibn Hanbal, Dar al Ma'arif, Cairo: 1950 and
1955, vols. 3 and 4. Hadith nos. 1957 and 2104.
9. Narrated in Al Bayhaqi and Ibn Majah, quoted in M. S. Aftfi, Al Martah wa
Huququhafi al Islam (in Arabic), Maktabat al Nahdhah, Cairo: 1988, p. 71.
10. Ibn Majah (compiler), Sunan Ibn Majah, Dar Ihya' al Kutub al Arabiyah, Cairo:
1952, vol. 1, Hadith #1873.
11. Matn al Bukhari, op. cit., vol. 3, p. 257.
12. Riyad al Saliheen, op. cit, pp. 140.
13. In the event of a family dispute, the Qur'an exhorts the husband to treat his wife
kindly and not to overlook her positive aspects. If the problem relates to the wife's
behavior, her husband may exhort her and appeal for reason. In most cases, this
measure is likely to be sufficient. In cases where the problem continues, the husband
may express his displeasure in another peaceful manner by sleeping in a separate bed
from hers. There are cases, however where a wife persists in deliberate mistreatment of
her husband and disregard for her marital obligations. Instead of divorce, the husband
may resort to another measure that may save the marriage, at least in some cases. Such
a measure is more accurately described as a gentle tap on the body, but never on the
face, making it more of a symbolic measure than a punitive one. Following is the
related Qur'anic text:
Men are the protectors and maintains of women because Allah has given the one more
(strength) than the other and because they support them from their means. Therefore
the righteous women are devoutly obedient and guard in (the husband's) absence what
Allah would have them guard. As to those women on whose part you fear disloyalty and
ill conduct, admonish them (first), (next) refuse to share their beds (and last) beat them
(lightly); but if they return to obedience seek not against them means (of annoyance):
for Allah is Most High, great (above you all). (Qur'an 4:34)
Even here, that maximum measure is limited by the following:
a) It must be seen as a rare exception to the repeated exhortation of mutual respect,
kindness and good treatment discussed earlier. Based on the Qur'an and Hadeeth, this
measure may be used in the case of lewdness on the part of the wife or extreme
refraction and rejection of the husband's reasonable requests on a consistent basis
(nushuz). Even then other measures such as exhortation should be tried first.
b) As defined by the Hadeeth, it is not permissible to strike anyone's face, cause any
bodily harm or even be harsh. What the Hadeeth qualified as dharban ghayra mubarrih
or light beating was interpreted by early jurists as a (symbolical) use of the miswak (a
small natural toothbrush).
They further qualified permissible "beating" as beating that leaves no mark on the
body. It is interesting that this latter fourteen centuries old qualifier is the criterion used
in contemporary American law to separate a light and harmless tap or strike from
"abuse" in the legal sense. This makes it clear that even this extreme, last resort and
"lesser of the two evils" measure that may save the marriage does not meet the
definitions of "physical abuse," "family violence," of "wife battering" in the twentieth
century laws in liberal democracies, where such extremes are commonplace that they
are seen as national concerns.
c) Permissibility of such symbolical expression of the seriousness of continued
refraction does not imply its desirability. In several Ahadeeth, Prophet Muhammad
discouraged this measure. Among his sayings: "Do not beat the female servants of
Allah," "Some (women visited my family complaining about their husbands (beating
them). These (husbands) are not the best of you," "<Is it not a shame that>, one of you
beats his wife like <an unscrupulous person> beats a slave and maybe he sleeps with her
at the end of the day." See Riyad Al Saliheen, op cit., pp. 130-140. In another Hadeeth,
the Prophet said:
"How does anyone of you beat his wife as he beats the stallion camel and then he may
embrace (sleep with) her?" Shaheeh Al Bukhari, op. cit., vol. 8, Hadeeth no. 68, pp.
42-43.
d) True following of the Sunnah is to follow the example of the Prophet Muhammad,
who never resorted to that measure regardless of the circumstances.
e) Islamic teachings are universal in nature. They respond to the needs and
circumstances of diverse times, cultures, and circumstances but unnecessary in others.
Some measures may work in some cases, cultures, or with certain persons but may not
be effective in others. By definition a "permissible" it is neither required encouraged,
or forbidden. In fact, it may be better to spell out the extent of permissibility such as in
the issue at hand, than leaving it unrestricted and unqualified or ignoring it all together.
In the absence of strict qualifiers, persons may interpret the matter in their own way
lending to excesses and real abuse.
f) Any excess, cruelty, family violence, or abuse committed by any "Muslim" can
never be traced, honestly, to any revelatory text (Qur'an and Hadeeth). Such excesses
and violations are to be blamed on the person(s) himself as it shows that he is paying lip
service to Islamic teachings and injunctions and is failing to follow the true sunnah of
the Prophet.
14. For more details on marriage dissolution and custody of children, see A. Abd al
Ati, Family Structure in Islam, Indianapolis: American Trust Publications, 1977, pp.
217-49.
15. For more details on the issue of polygyny, see Jamal A. Badawi, Polygyny in
Islamic Law, Plainfield, IN: American Trust Publications, also Islamic Teachings (audio
series), Islamic Information Foundation, 1982, album IV.
16. See for example, Edward A. Westermarck, The History of Human Marriage, 4th
ed. (London: Macmlllan, 1925), vol 3, pp. 42-43; also Encyclopedia BibRca, Rev. T. K.
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Arabiyah, n.d., vol. 3 Kitab al Adab, p. 47. Translated by the author. For a similar
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Maktabat al Riyadh al Hadeethah, Riyadh, Saudi Arabia, i982, colt 8, the Book of ai
Adab, Hadeeth no. 2, p. 2.
18. Narrated by Aisha, collected by Ibn Asakir in Silsilat Kunaz al Sunnah 1, Al./ami
Al Sagheer, Ist ed. 1410 AH. A computer program.
19. Riyadh al Saliheen, op. cit., p. 139.
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Assaamualaikum Wa Rahmatullah.

 When should a girl observe hijab?
 
My question is if a female child has began to grow body hair is she required by sharee'ah to observe full hijab?.

Praise be to Allaah.  
A person is not considered to be accountable until after reaching puberty. Before puberty he or she is not accountable, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The Pen has been lifted from three: from the child until he reaches puberty, from the sleeper until he wakes up, and from the one who has lost his mind until he recovers.” (Narrated by Abu Dawood, 4402). Based on this, then a girl has to put on complete hijab when she reaches puberty. 
There are three signs of puberty that males and females have in common:
1 – Nocturnal emissions (wet dreams)
2 – Growth of coarse hairs around the private parts
3 – Reaching the age of fifteen
In the case of females there is a fourth sign, which is:
4 – Menstruation
If one of these signs of puberty appears in a girl, then she is obliged to do all the obligatory duties and to avoid all haraam things. One of the obligatory  duties is wearing hijab.
But the parent or guardian of a girl has to make her get used to doing the obligatory duties and avoiding haraam things before puberty, so that she will grow up with that and it will not be too hard for her to adhere to that after she reaches puberty. This is one of the basic principles of child rearing that are established in sharee’ah.
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Train your children to pray when they are seven years old, and smack them if they do not do so when they are ten, and separate them in their beds.”
Narrated by Abu Dawood, 495; Ahmad, 2/187, from the hadeeth of ‘Amr ibn Shu’ayb, narrated from his father from his grandfather.
Something similar was mentioned in the hadeeth of Saburah ibn Ma’bad which was narrated by Abu Dawood (494) and al-Tirmidhi (407). He said, it is hasan saheeh. The hadeeth was classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in al-Irwa’, 247.
Al-Bukhaari (1960) and Muslim (91136) narrated in their saheehs from al-Rubayyi’ bint Mu’awwidh the hadeeth concerning the fast of ‘Ashoora and when it was enjoined on the Muslims. In this hadeeth it says: “And after that we used to fast it – meaning ‘Ashoora – and make our small children fast, and we would go to the mosque and make them toys out of wool, and if one of them cried for food we would give them that toy (to play with) until iftaar.”
According to a report narrated by Muslim: If they asked us for food, we would give them the toy to distract them until they completed their fast.
Al-Nawawi said in Sharh Saheeh Muslim (8/14): This hadeeth describes training children to do acts of obedience and making them get used to doing acts of worship, but they were not accountable.
Ibn al-Qayyim said in Tuhfat al-Mawdood bi Ahkaam al-Mawlood (p. 162): “Even though the child is not accountable, his guardian is accountable and it is not permissible for him to enable him to do haraam things, so that he becomes used to them and it is difficult to wean him away from them afterwards.”
And Allaah knows best and is most wise.
So if a girl is approaching puberty, there is the fear that her not wearing hijab may cause young men to be tempted by her or her by them. Hence in this situation her parent or guardian has to make her wear hijab so as to prevent means that may lead to evil or immorality.
And Allaah knows best.

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